The Most-Praised Generation Goes To Work
by Jeffrey Zaslow
from:
The Wall Street Journal 20 April 2007
Uber-stroked kids are reaching adulthood—and now their bosses (and spouses) are having to deal with them.…
You, you, you—you really are special, you are! You've got everything going for you. You're attractive, witty, brilliant. "Gifted" is the word that comes to mind.
Childhood in recent decades has been defined by such stroking—by parents who see their job as building self-esteem, by soccer coaches who give every player a trophy, by schools that used to name one"student of the month" and these days name 40.
No, as this greatest gneration grows up, the culture of praise is reaching deeply into the adult world. Bosses, professors and mates are feeling the need to lavish priase on young adults, particularly twentysomethings, or else see them wither under an unfamiliar compliment deficit.…
America's praise fixation has economic, labor and social ramifications. Adults who were overpraised as children are apt to be narcissistic ata work and in personal relationships…
The Gottman Institute, a relationship-research and training firm in Seattle, tells clients that a key to martial happiness is if couples make at least five times as many positive statements to and about each other as negative ones. Meanwhile, products are being marketed to help families make praise a part of their daily routines. For $32.95, families can buy the "You are Special Today Red Plate, " and then select one worthy person each meal to eat off the dish.…
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